Honoring You in All Your Relationships

It’s no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power to change another person, it only makes sense that the best place to start in our relationships is with ourselves.At our local Super Walmart, there is a gentleman there by the name of George. George stands at the front door and enthusiastically greets everyone who walks into Walmart. He smiles at the guests and with a jubilant tone, he asks people how they’re doing. When he’s not talking to someone, he is singing and enjoying life wholeheartedly. George has the ability to change me and my mood, simply by being who he is. By honoring what is important to him – joy – he brings out the best in his Walmart relationships.Our lives are touched by many relationships. While most of us define a relationship as existing between two people, there are other types of relationships as well. The one component of your relationships that remains constant, however, is you. So as we explore the relationships in your life, I want to invite you to ask yourself these important questions as it relates to each of these precious relationships.Who are you in this relationship?Who do you want to be in this relationship?What important values do you want to define this relationship?What needs are being met or not being met in this relationship?Is respect practiced in this relationship?Does this relationship give you positive energy? Or does it drain you?In what ways do you nurture this relationship?What changes need to occur in this relationship?Relationship with GodGod is your Rock. He is your foundation. He is the Source for an unending supply of love, peace, patience and wisdom. Since God is the Master Creator, He is the central point from which all other relationships are formed.Relationship with SelfWithout love and respect for yourself, it is difficult to love and respect others. An authentic relationship with you is critical to creating honest and open relationships with others. The relationship with self must be nurtured frequently so you can be emotionally and physically available to your other important relationships.Relationship with SpouseAlthough this relationship may or may not exist in your family, if it does, it is the link that ties your family together. This link must be strong enough to withstand the challenges of raising your children and building a healthy family.Relationship with ChildrenThese relationships are the reason we call ourselves mom. We have been entrusted by God to be their soul provider and protector. Our children depend on us for guidance, teaching, and most importantly, love.Relationship with Parents and SiblingsThese relationships were our primary relationships in life. It is where we practiced how to be in relationship with other people. Depending on what we learned in our early years, we may or may not want to model these relationships. Healing these first relationships significantly affects the health of our relationships today.Relationship with FriendsOur friends, depending on who we choose, have the ability to be a great support for us. Friends meet significant emotional needs for women, and remind us that fun, sharing and bonding is important for our overall well being.Relationship with Boss, Coworkers and ClientsThese relationships, if we work, take up a tremendous amount of our waking hours. Much of what we experience at work is brought home to our loved ones. Our working relationships can inspire us or drain us, so it’s important that we choose these relationships wisely.Relationship with Time and MoneyAlthough time and money are not human beings, they are precious commodities in our life. How we choose to spend our time affects every relationship in our lives. Our relationship with money holds energy in our lives. We have the ability to attract or repel money depending on how we treat it.In each of these and other significant relationships, you are a vital contributor. Who you are in each of these relationships can make or break the quality that you experience. So be yourself and align you relationships with your values. Make the time to nurture your relationships because, in the end, relationships are all that really matter.

What Are You Committed To? The Four Factors For Effective Commitment

Commitment means being bound by a course of action to bring about the desired results. It is one of the most powerful personal traits we can aim to achieve.Our greatest leaders and the most successful business people all share common belief systems – determination, strength of purpose, and commitment.Being committed to yourself, your goals, your business and your relationships is what raises you above the mediocre, because people who honor their commitments stand out in the crowd.By honoring your commitments, you keep your promises and stay true to your word. Honoring your commitments also means that you promise to see them through to the very end, come what may.Not honoring your commitment destroys your credibility, dependability, and trustworthiness.1. Commitment to LifeThose who commit to living a successful, fulfilled life become the most successful, and fulfilled people.Commitment is not simply about making a half-hearted promise to yourself that you may keep when “all the stars are aligned satisfactorily”; commitment involves making a promise to yourself that you will see through to the very end.However, commitment doesn’t mean following through on a goal that, for whatever reason, becomes misaligned or doesn’t prove to be the goal you originally wanted to achieve.Making a promise that changes direction is quite separate from breaking a promise.To lead a fulfilled and happy life that raises you above the mediocre and clearly sets you on a path to achieve your life goals is what commitment is all about.2. Commitment to BusinessIt would be impossible to imagine a business leader who doesn’t value commitment as one of their greatest strengths.Commitment requires courage, strength and perseverance; personal traits you will find in any leadership manual.Great business leaders not only practice commitment in their own lives, they encourage, promote and reward commitment in their employees.Committed employees are competent and effective in the workplace as well as being committed to the overall success and vision of the company.Companies who engender commitment in every facet of their organization raise themselves above the level of their competition by honoring their promises and fulfilling the needs of their customers.3. Commitment to SuccessSuccess doesn’t just happen. Success occurs when determination, a desire to succeed, strength of purpose and a commitment to achieve your goals are present.Successful people commit to achieving better than their best. For them, commitment becomes an instinctual habit they practice every day.However, commitment is not merely about the intention or the strength of your promises, it is about taking action. Even the strongest commitment is just another broken promise unless a commitment to take action occurs.Study the commonalities successful people possess and you will find at the heart of their success a series of small and large goals they work on with a determination to succeed and a commitment to go the distance.4. Commitment to RelationshipsYou would swear from the number of books, seminars and workshops on the subject of “commitment phobia” that the phrase only belonged to the relationship game.In fact, “commitment phobes” occur in all walks of life and are generally loathe to commit to anything.Fulfilled and satisfying relationships form the backbone of our relationship with ourselves and the world around us.Commitment to a relationship operates in the same way commitment to anything does.Whether your relationship is personal, business, professional or sexual, committing to another individual is much the same as committing to an ideal or goal. You make a promise to that person and then you action your promise.Sounds simple, doesn’t it? So why then do the statistics tell us that over 50% of marriages now end in divorce?It would take much more than this brief article would allow to explain in any detail why so many committed relationships eventually fail.Human beings are amazingly complex creatures, so the coming together of two complex creatures in an equally complex relationship can be fraught with mishaps, misunderstandings, doubt, deceit, despair…the list goes on and on.In its most simplistic terms, committing to a relationship is no different from committing to a long term goal. To stay committed, you need to keep your focus on the vision and understand that the path to attain that vision may meander, twist, turn, convolute and lead you down a number of dead ends.What it takes is a shared desire to achieve the same vision and determination to succeed no matter what obstacles are placed in your path.What will you do next to increase your commitments? Make a list and begin implementing them in your life.